Relationship Help for Women - Secret Principles to Saving a Relationship By David Roppo

Is your relationship in jeopardy? Are you about to lose your long-term relationship, or are you headed for divorce? Has your partner dropped this emotional nuclear bomb on you; "I love you, but I'm not in love with you anymore," or what about this one; "I'm in love with someone else?" Have you been completely blindsided and utterly shocked by your partner's unwillingness to reconcile your relationship? Does your partner blame you for the failing relationship while accepting very little, if any, responsibility whatsoever? Well, you're not alone! This type of behavior is inherent to every failing relationship.

Of course you want to save your relationship. Believe me; I understand how important your relationship is, and I also know just how painful the thought of losing it can be. I'll bet you've been riding an emotional roller coaster, lying awake at night, losing sleep, and worrying, incessantly, about your failing relationship. Haven't you? When faced with losing a relationship, generally speaking, fear and insecurity are running high. Unfortunately, that causes most women to speak and act in a counterproductive way, which, in turn, often destroys their relationship, completely. The question is; what should you say and do to save a relationship?

Well, there are two secrets principles to saving a relationship that every woman should know - two, time-tested and proven, principles that I've used, for the past 7 years, to help women around the globe save their relationships. And, I'm going to share them with you. Let's take a look at principle number one. First and foremost, you must take responsibility for your negative contributions to the relationship. What would you say if I told you that two simple phrases can dramatically shift the momentum in your relationship? Well, they can! Those two phrases are; I agree. And, I understand. Now, don't get all overzealous here and start agreeing with everything your partner says or does - especially if he's been unfaithful! Instead, you should agree with and understand the correct and appropriate issues that have undermined the relationship. And, you must address them with your partner. I call this a "Statement of Agreement." You'll be completely amazed and dumfounded at how this technique will shift the momentum in your relationship. But, saving your relationship doesn't end here. This is only the first principle. You have one more to go!

The second principle is unleashing your feminine power through personal growth and development. Love is giving in a relationship, but only if you can give it to yourself first. Consequently, self-love is a critical component to a magical relationship. It may take two to tango, but unless you have learned how to rumba with yourself, you'll soon find the dance floor of life to be a very lonely place! In simple terms, love can not be forced, manipulated or caged. Love can only be attracted. So, pleading, begging, prodding, coercing and manipulating, inevitably, will leave you unloved and alone. Love is like a magnet. If you push with opposing energy, it eludes you. If you attract with like energy, it is drawn to you. For women, the challenge is always mastering the male element or building unstoppable, strength and self-confidence. And, when it comes to love, there is nothing more compelling to a man than self-confidence or feminine power.

Bottom line, put these two secret principles into play, and the results will be simply stunning and completely mind-blowing.

Regards,
David Roppo
Life Coach -Author - Speaker

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Woman.... to be seen as beautiful: Improve your Personal Life in Awareness

Improve your personal life with self-awareness

To improve your self-awareness you first need to concentrate on your past and emotions.  How did you get where you are at now and how can you get to where you want to be in life. Pulling up the resources in your mind will help you become acquainted with self.

A person needs to know and trust him or herself before they can trust others. Don’t depend on the judgment of others, rather use your own judgment and it will make you feel like a new person. You should always stop and think, so that you learn how to trust you and know who you are. With the fast pace world we live in now you probably put many things aside and because you don’t have time. Take time for yourself and think about it before you do.

When looking back on you life look for the things that made you the way you are today.  Try working on a positive attitude in order to become completely yourself and get that self-awareness back.

Start doing things that make you happy and successful. Bring happiness to yourself and others, it will make you feel good and bring joy to your life. When you are happy you’ll have less stress as well.

Practice yoga and meditate to help you develop. Meditation takes a lot of practice so be patient when using yoga practices and do not expect results to happen over night.

Try to rediscover yourself by writing a journal. Write about how you feel, what you want in life; record it all, write the results as you progress. This will help you decide what is important and what isn’t.  Knowing what is important and what isn’t will bring out the value in you. Knowing your values in life are the key to self-awareness and your personal growth and happiness will bet better as each day goes by.

Set some goals and deadlines on when you want to have them accomplished. Take action right away allowing you to learn and be flexible. With an open mind study and learn from other people. Finding someone to support you in your goals and to listen when you need to talk about where you want to go will help make them easier.

You will have to change the way you have done in the past; you learn by mistakes and you don’t want them to happen again. You want new results and you can do that if you do the mistakes over again. 

You will grow as a person once you build your self-awareness. You will accept yourself and others you’ll become more self reliant and motivated. When your self-awareness grows you, will benefit more as a person and become more successful in whatever you want to do in your life.

Stay in control of your life; don’t let your life take over and control you. By understanding yourself and mind, you learn how to find yourself, know what has gone wrong, and fix it. Keeping your life in balance is very important to keep your self-awareness up where it needs to be in order to be happy and than you can add value to your life making you feel better.

Happy people are generous and giving. Give as much of yourself as you can and than push to give more. The more you give the better it will make you feel and you’ll be able to forget the rough and hard times. Since Christmas is here try, choosing a special gift, wrap it for a person who has nothing.

Try these out and see how your life change.

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