After long hibernation.... do we still great?

Hi... It is more than a year I have not updated this blog. Hmmm... again it is a procrastination issue. No excuse Norzila. But that what life is meant... it is like a wheel. At times you are up and at times you are down.

Whatever reasons I am giving, it is my problem and nothing to do with you. As I have mentioned in my other blogs, I need to keep the writing momentum and make my blogs as my writing platforms.

Short message today: To be seen as a great woman, you need to know what you need in your life, set your targets and work towards your goals. Just focus on the goals and learn to be a better player everyday. You are the director of your own movie therefore make sure you have the best actors and actress in your movie. Find great mentor to achieve your goals, this is to cut short the pain in achieving your goals.

Without clear goals or targets you would not know what to do .... and no one would see you as great!

So start writing your 101 goals in your life and start working on it.

It is NOW or NEVER!!!

You are GREAT!!!

Relationship Help for Women - Secret Principles to Saving a Relationship By David Roppo

Is your relationship in jeopardy? Are you about to lose your long-term relationship, or are you headed for divorce? Has your partner dropped this emotional nuclear bomb on you; "I love you, but I'm not in love with you anymore," or what about this one; "I'm in love with someone else?" Have you been completely blindsided and utterly shocked by your partner's unwillingness to reconcile your relationship? Does your partner blame you for the failing relationship while accepting very little, if any, responsibility whatsoever? Well, you're not alone! This type of behavior is inherent to every failing relationship.

Of course you want to save your relationship. Believe me; I understand how important your relationship is, and I also know just how painful the thought of losing it can be. I'll bet you've been riding an emotional roller coaster, lying awake at night, losing sleep, and worrying, incessantly, about your failing relationship. Haven't you? When faced with losing a relationship, generally speaking, fear and insecurity are running high. Unfortunately, that causes most women to speak and act in a counterproductive way, which, in turn, often destroys their relationship, completely. The question is; what should you say and do to save a relationship?

Well, there are two secrets principles to saving a relationship that every woman should know - two, time-tested and proven, principles that I've used, for the past 7 years, to help women around the globe save their relationships. And, I'm going to share them with you. Let's take a look at principle number one. First and foremost, you must take responsibility for your negative contributions to the relationship. What would you say if I told you that two simple phrases can dramatically shift the momentum in your relationship? Well, they can! Those two phrases are; I agree. And, I understand. Now, don't get all overzealous here and start agreeing with everything your partner says or does - especially if he's been unfaithful! Instead, you should agree with and understand the correct and appropriate issues that have undermined the relationship. And, you must address them with your partner. I call this a "Statement of Agreement." You'll be completely amazed and dumfounded at how this technique will shift the momentum in your relationship. But, saving your relationship doesn't end here. This is only the first principle. You have one more to go!

The second principle is unleashing your feminine power through personal growth and development. Love is giving in a relationship, but only if you can give it to yourself first. Consequently, self-love is a critical component to a magical relationship. It may take two to tango, but unless you have learned how to rumba with yourself, you'll soon find the dance floor of life to be a very lonely place! In simple terms, love can not be forced, manipulated or caged. Love can only be attracted. So, pleading, begging, prodding, coercing and manipulating, inevitably, will leave you unloved and alone. Love is like a magnet. If you push with opposing energy, it eludes you. If you attract with like energy, it is drawn to you. For women, the challenge is always mastering the male element or building unstoppable, strength and self-confidence. And, when it comes to love, there is nothing more compelling to a man than self-confidence or feminine power.

Bottom line, put these two secret principles into play, and the results will be simply stunning and completely mind-blowing.

Regards,
David Roppo
Life Coach -Author - Speaker

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/7591999

Woman.... to be seen as beautiful: Improve your Personal Life in Awareness

Improve your personal life with self-awareness

To improve your self-awareness you first need to concentrate on your past and emotions.  How did you get where you are at now and how can you get to where you want to be in life. Pulling up the resources in your mind will help you become acquainted with self.

A person needs to know and trust him or herself before they can trust others. Don’t depend on the judgment of others, rather use your own judgment and it will make you feel like a new person. You should always stop and think, so that you learn how to trust you and know who you are. With the fast pace world we live in now you probably put many things aside and because you don’t have time. Take time for yourself and think about it before you do.

When looking back on you life look for the things that made you the way you are today.  Try working on a positive attitude in order to become completely yourself and get that self-awareness back.

Start doing things that make you happy and successful. Bring happiness to yourself and others, it will make you feel good and bring joy to your life. When you are happy you’ll have less stress as well.

Practice yoga and meditate to help you develop. Meditation takes a lot of practice so be patient when using yoga practices and do not expect results to happen over night.

Try to rediscover yourself by writing a journal. Write about how you feel, what you want in life; record it all, write the results as you progress. This will help you decide what is important and what isn’t.  Knowing what is important and what isn’t will bring out the value in you. Knowing your values in life are the key to self-awareness and your personal growth and happiness will bet better as each day goes by.

Set some goals and deadlines on when you want to have them accomplished. Take action right away allowing you to learn and be flexible. With an open mind study and learn from other people. Finding someone to support you in your goals and to listen when you need to talk about where you want to go will help make them easier.

You will have to change the way you have done in the past; you learn by mistakes and you don’t want them to happen again. You want new results and you can do that if you do the mistakes over again. 

You will grow as a person once you build your self-awareness. You will accept yourself and others you’ll become more self reliant and motivated. When your self-awareness grows you, will benefit more as a person and become more successful in whatever you want to do in your life.

Stay in control of your life; don’t let your life take over and control you. By understanding yourself and mind, you learn how to find yourself, know what has gone wrong, and fix it. Keeping your life in balance is very important to keep your self-awareness up where it needs to be in order to be happy and than you can add value to your life making you feel better.

Happy people are generous and giving. Give as much of yourself as you can and than push to give more. The more you give the better it will make you feel and you’ll be able to forget the rough and hard times. Since Christmas is here try, choosing a special gift, wrap it for a person who has nothing.

Try these out and see how your life change.

GEMUK ITU CANTIK...."FAT IS BEAUTIFUL"

"KECANTIKAN ITU SUATU YANG SUBJEKTIF, KALAU SEMUA MELIHAT KECANTIKAN HANYA PADA PARAS RUPA FIZIKAL, MENGAPA ADA YANG MEMILIH WANITA YANG CACAT SEBAGAI ISTERI?"

Saya masih teringat kata-kata seorang ustaz yang mengajar saya semasa di sekolah menengah. Kecantikan itu subjektif, bukan paras rupa menjadi ukuran walaupun mereka yang Allah berikan kecantikan fizikal sememangnya satu bonus. Namun tafsiran kecantikan itu sendiri berbeza-beza menurut pandangan masing-masing yang dipengaruhi oleh prinsip hidup, cara dibesarkan, pengalaman lalu, pegangan agama dan sociobudaya.

Di Nigeria, seseorang yang gemuk di anggap cantik. Ini kerana masyarakatnya berpendapat kedua ibu bapa mereka mempunyai kekayaan yang cukup untuk memberi makan anak-anak mereka. Perempuan yang gemuk mudah mendapat jodoh dan menjadi rebutan lelaki. Perempuan yang gemuk dianggap sihat dan dapat melahirkan anak yang ramai. Amat menarik bila masyarakat Nigeria beranggapan gemuk adalah cantik. Malah mereka mempunyai rumah khas di mana anak-anak perempuan mereka di hantar ke rumah penjagaan ini di bawah seliaan seorang penyelia untuk diberi pengetahuan tentang gemuk dan diberi makan supaya menjadi gemuk.

Berbeza pula isunya di Malaysia, masyarakat Malaysia menganggap gemuk itu hodoh dan terbukti dengan berbagai produk-produk pelangsinagn badan yang dipaparkan di papan-papan iklan seluruh negara, begitu juga majalah-majalah tempatan. banyak lagi negara yang mempunyai persepsi yang serupa dengan rakyat Malaysia yang berbilang bangsa ini. Apakah mungkin isu kegemukan ini telah menimbulakan lebih banyak isu psikologi seperti masalah pemakanan atau "eating disorder"? memuntahkan kembali makanan yang telah dimakan atau induce vomiting adalah masalah ynag biasa di kalangan remaja.

Apa yang penting kehidupan mestilah seimbang dengan aktiviti fizikal. Badan yang sihat perlu untuk meneruskan kehidupan yang semakin mencabar.

Understanding the meaning of beauty

"CANTIK ITU ANUGERAH ALLAH, SEMUA MANUSIA ALLAH CIPTAKAN DENGAN KECANTIKAN YANG TERSENDIRI, MAKA BERSYUKURLAH"

Sengaja saya memberikan tajuk entri pertama saya ini dalam English untuk menarik lebih banyak trafik ke blog saya. Saya adalah seorang ibu kepada 5 orang cahayamata yang berumur antara 1 dan 13 tahun. Saya bangga mempunyai seorang suami yang sangat penyayang dan anak-anak yang bijak. Alhamdulilah kesemua anak-anak saya Allah berikan sempurna sifat fizikal dan mental. Mereka adalah permata hati saya.

Berbicara tentang "CANTIK", menurut emak saya semasa saya kecil saya amat comel hehehe. Kulit saya putih, badan saya montel dan mata saya sepet seperti orang cina sehinggakan ketua kampung di mana saya tinggal berkata secara berseloroh kepada emak saya "Bila dia besar nanti ni, tak nampak orang bujang ni...mata sepet sangat". Itu yang emak saya ceritakan kepada saya. Saya hanya tersenyum mendengarnya.

Masih saya teringat kenangan sewaktu saya bersekolah dulu, saya selalu merasa rendah diri lantaran saya datang dari keluarga yang kurang berada. Rasa rendah diri itu semakin menjadi lebih parah semasa saya berada di sekolah menengah. Saya pernah dipanggil dengan gelaran yang amat menyakitkan hati yang saya rasa tak sanggup nak menulisnya di sini lantaran wajah saya yang kelihatan begitu "serius". Nama saya juga pernah ditulis di atas meja kayu dalam kelas dengan gelaran yang serupa. MashaAllah masa tu malunya rasa, sedihnya Allah saja yang tahu. Kenapa mereka sanggup mengutuk saya sedemikian rupa.Sebagai seorang remaja, saya rasa amat "terkilan" kerana saya "tidak cantik". Setiap kali saya menilik wajah saya di cermin, saya akan senyum untuk memujuk diri bahawa saya sebenarnya "cantik", saya sebenarnya "manis". Adakalanya jika saya melewati bilik rakan-rakan di asrama yang ada menggantung cermin muka, saya akan berhenti dan melihat wajah saya sendiri. "Eh, rasa dah senyum dah tadi" itulah kata hati saya bila saya melihat wajah saya. Memang benar wajah saya masih masam mencuka walaupun saya rasa saya dah senyum!!! Oh patutlah orang kata saya "GONG", dan "SOMBONG". Walhal saya tak pernah berlagak sombong.


Dilema alam remaja


Sebenarnya nak menceritakan bagaimana alam remaja saya berkaitan isu "cantik". Bila saya bermonolog , saya selalu mengatakan "saya tak cantik" dan selalu mengadu pada Allah. Memang benar di alam remaja itulah antara perkara-perkara yang menjadi perhatian utama. namun saya sedar tidak ada apa yang boleh mengubah wajah saya. Allah itu maha adil. Saya cuba melontarkan perasaan rendah diri itu jauh-jauh. Namun hidup di alam remaja memanglah amat mencabar, bukan sahaja berperang dengan konflik remaja tetapi juga dengan beban pelajaran.

Disingkatkan cerita semasa di sekolah menegah, saya tak pernah mempunyai kawan lelaki yang menunjukkan minat terhadap saya. Pada ketika itu saya tidak nafikan perasaan cemburu itu wujud bila mendengar cerita-cerita "gossip" rakan-rakan tentang si A suka kepada si B. Terdetik di hati "kenapalah tiada pelajar lelaki yang suka kat aku?" Itulah alam remaja, mudah terpengaruh dengan rakan-rakan dan alam "cinta monyet" telah bermula!

"Dulu, masa mula-mula Zila datang, memang akak chop Zila ni sombong, tapi sekarang baru akak nampak Zila ni sebenarnya amat peramah dan baik hati!" kata seorang kakak senior kepada saya.

Beliau adalah anak kepada bekas duta Malaysia ke luar negara. Saya selalu mengelak untuk berjumpa dengan dia sebab saya tahu latar belakang beliau. Rasa rendah diri sebab saya anak orang kampung sangat -sangat mempengaruhi pemikiran dan tindakan saya.

Tatkala saya mendengar pengakuan kakak senior saya ni, saya rasa seperti terkena kejutan elektrik.  Subhanallah, ada juga orang yang memerhatikan saya dan menyukai saya. Lama kelamaan kami menjadi kawan baik dan hubungan itu kekal sehingga kini. Saya telah mendapat "KECANTIKAN" saya pada masa itu dan ianya amat memberi kesan terhadap harga diri saya....alhamdulillah. Di sinilah bermulanya saya mengumpul "KECANTIKAN" saya yang ada jatuh bangunnya seperti orang mengumpul kekayaan.

Ikuti kisah selanjutnya bagaimana saya mengumpul "KECANTIKAN"  saya di entri akan datang.

TIPS KECANTIKAN 1

Fikiran
Sentiasa bersyukur kepada Allah bahawa kita dijadikan dengan sebaik mungkin, dan dalam setiap manusia yang Allah jadikan ada "kecantikan" istimewa yang tiada pada orang lain.

Fizikal
Pastikan kita sentiasa sihat dan bersih.
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Nice meeting you

Assalamualaikum,

Thank you for visiting my new blog. This blog is created as a platform for me to share "what I like to share" with all women outside there not as a lecturer or a psychiatrist but as a "woman, wife, mother and friend".I would like to share my knowledge about women in general, experiences as a doctor, psychiatrist, mother and wife to reach the true meaning of "BEAUTY". These experiences may be what you are looking for but you could not get it in a single hub. Aware about my advantage of being a doctor and psychiatrist, it is a great bonus for me to share my view on what BEAUTY really means. Thank you to my dear husband who encourages me to write as a way to share my knowledge.

My family photo during Hari Raya Aidilfitri 8 August 2013

My happy family